All I want for Christmas is you … to touch me, slowly.
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Springsteen was right; we all need to “share a little of that human touch”. Loving affection at every stage of our lives is essential; from healthy brain development to strengthening our intimacy, and thus our love for ourselves and one another. We learn this in the womb by touching our own faces. Even at this early developmental stage our skin contains receptors which directly elicit emotional responses.
While a multi-sensory experience including gazing into your partners eyes and vocalising your feelings of love etc all assist in heightening the sensation of touch, there are key ‘touch’ stones to tactile loving alone that can change your partners mood, evoke intimacy and enhance the love bond;
7 Ways to Awaken Love Through Touch
1. Third Eye Kisses
Your third eye represents your soul and intuition. Kissing the third eye (or the centre of the forehead – between the brows and slightly up) is an act of compassion. It activates the pineal and pituitary glad of the receiver bringing them a sense of security and wellbeing. This is a beautiful, ancient practice you can share with all loved ones of your Tribe.
2. Cuddles & Snuggles
First thing in the morning, all night long, on the couch, at the beach, on a picnic blanket; body to body, naked or clothed, cuddles and snuggles are an ultimate endorphin booster. By raising your oxytocin levels, cuddling and snuggling creates a sense of safety, support, bonding, trust, wellbeing and they reduce stress. Time to get cuddly and snuggly!
3. Holding Hands
James Coan, PhD, assistant professor of psychology at the University of Virginia, researched hand holding and discovered when you’re in a happy relationship, clasping hands reduces stress-related activity in your brain area called the hypothalamus (which lowers the levels of cortisol coursing through your system – as well as in the part of the brain that registers pain, thus reducing your pain levels.) So calm that mind of yours and intwine those fingers!
Stella Tip: There is hand holding and there is hand holding. Hold your Loves hand like you mean it, like you want to. Not like you are a limp fish resting in their palm.
Hand holding is also fabulously portable; from holding hands in the car and walking, to across the dinner table, under the table or while you sleep. Otters do it while they sleep so they don’t drift away … there is immense love to be found in such simplicity as holding hands.
4. Slow Caresses
Slow, light touch, is scientifically proven more pleasant than fast touch.
Look into your Loves eyes, hold their face lovingly between your hands, work your way down their body … slowly.
Taking your time with slow caresses will awaken your Loves sexual or Kundalini energy. As a receiver; relax your breath and your body. Allow your body to be worshipped and open your heart to this loving gift you are receiving.
5. Passionate Kissing
As explained here on page XX, kisses are an intimate truth telling exchange of emotions.
Joy Davidson, PhD, psychologist and clinical sexologist says, “Kissing is an exciting excursion into the sensual … if we happen to be connecting with someone we care about, it produces a sense of well-being and a kind of full-bodied pleasure.”
Kissing is also a sensual meditation, as it stops the buzz in your mind, it quells anxiety, and it heightens the experience of being present in the moment. Dr. Davidson says, “kissing produces a lot of the physiological changes that meditation produces.” Reduce your stress, improve your relationship satisfaction and get zen, by lovingly locking those lips!
6. Gentle Stroking
Tracing the outline of your Loves body with your finger tips or the back of your hand can be a simple loving gesture, an acknowledgement of their presence, or a seductive move. Be open to each other. Feel free to play, but remember; take your time and take it slow.
From a gentle shoulder or foot rub to an erotic, tantric ritual. Massage can help you and your Love relax, connect and explore … each other.
Massaging your Love will activate their senses, allowing you both to share a conscious connection as giver and receiver. Their are numerous benefits of erotic massage using the lightest touch of your finger tips and breath, to stroking their entire body like running water. Play with gentle slapping, scratching and biting as well as slow, deep massage movements, and beyond. There is a world of exotic and erotic to experiment with here. Treat yourselves and delve deeper.
Look at that you’ve just found your holiday reading. Cuddle up as you turn the pages together … while getting tangled up in the sheets!
Creating and nurturing a sexual, spiritual, and emotional bond through regular loving touch is a way to ensure the ‘gift exchange’ in your relationship is a practice that extends beyond Christmas.
With love and trust you can let your walls come down and open up to one another freely and willingly, to give and receive. Because love, like energy, moves in a circle of continual flow. If the giving or the receiving stops so does the flow of love. Invest in yourselves, invest in each other and make every day like Christmas by awakening love through touch.
Now go forth; share third eye kisses, cuddles & snuggles, hold hands (like you mean it), caress slowly, kiss passionately, stroke gently and massage those beautiful bodies of yours, taking turns at giving and receiving.
Life is a joy, and touch awakens the bliss of our existence even more.
With Love, S*M
So StellaTribe, what kind of loving touch is on the menu for you today?
You could even make a ‘gift voucher’ and pop it in your beloved’s stocking.
Get creative, share the LOVE and have a very, very fabulous, festive season.