Sex V's Intimate, Conscious, Love Making.


Sensuality for her is not only a wave of pleasure in which she is bathed, and a charge of electric joy at contact with another. When man lies in her womb, she is fulfilled, each act of love a taking of man within her, an act of birth and rebirth, of child rearing and man bearing. Man lies in her womb and is reborn each time anew with a desire to act, to be. But for woman, the climax is not in the birth, but in the moment man rests inside of her. ~Anais Nin




In an age of virtual sexual revolution where sexual connection is via the internet, foreplay is either non existent or seen as separate from the act of ‘sex’, and where pornography and misleading sexualised images of women’s yoni’s / genitalia all looking the same is leading to increased labiaplasty (surgical labial reduction), cultural ‘norms’ of ‘sex’ are arguably far removed from true intimacy and the healing art of love making.

Unless you’ve heard of Tantra, beyond the Karma Sutra (which isn’t actually Tantra) and are a Tantrika or sacred sexuality/intimacy/industry professional, dived into a book by David Deida or Barbara Carrellas, and picked your self up in search of more knowing, “THIS CAN’T BE IT!”, chances are you may view ‘sex’ as a few minutes of intercourse that either does or doesn’t end in an orgasm (and/or a baby).

How does that make you feel?

I’ve always struggled to separate love from sex. Perhaps because sex wasn’t what I wanted. I was never curious about that, never craved it, desired it, fantasised about it. Because I didn’t feel into that. What I did feel into was true intimacy and the art of making love, of a connection so deep, of reverence so powerful, it was a form of worship – both to serve my beloved and to receive from them. What I craved, what I desired, what I wanted to create was a Divine union; explored and awakened through making love.

The word ‘intimacy’ comes from a Latin root: intimus – meaning your interiority, your innermost core. Sharing this is harder for most than getting naked; though intimacy is what ‘getting naked’, getting truly, utterly, and unashamedly naked actually is. True intimacy is baring your all, inside and out.

This is sacred, this is what it can be, and for me how it should be. That’s not to say I haven’t experienced, ‘sex’ sans ultimate intimacy, that a ‘quickie’ doesn’t have it’s place, or that every love making encounter needs to be an exotic candle strewn, rose petal scattered experience, with pan flutes. Not at all. What I am saying is having felt the power of intimate, conscious love making there is no going back.

It is a heart, body, soul collaboration between you and your beloved/s, or enjoyed utterly on your own. It is a harmony of Shiva & Shakti, or day and night, yin & yang (both polarities we each have within us). It is the consciousness which you bring to each sexual act that makes the experience sacred, irrespective if it is a shared or enjoyed on your own.

“Egoless sex is when you approach your partner with reverence. You see Spirit in a temple of beauty. Your heart worships in silence before you speak.

You realize the sacredness of yours too. You open all the portals to your temple for your beloved to enter.” Kamal Gabry




Art – Ines Honfi

This connection opens us to the power of Divine love.  Through this power we reawaken to our true self. As women we are both creators and mothers of our own lives, as well as the caretakers and daughters of the Earth.

The beauty and magnitude of this power and wisdom is that once awakened and unleashed it can travel into your entire life; your passions, career, relationships, (date nights!) … like Tantra; the art of intimate, conscious love making is a way of life.


Sacred, sexual love encompasses sensuality, intimacy, unity, harmony.

Sacred Feminine and Masculine united can heal anything. The love that is created from this union is unconditional love. This intimacy between beloved/s and self, or self alone, is more than the peak of orgasm, it is a surrendering. An act so profound that re-birth is the creation and the ultimate climax is oneness.

May you…

Surrender with your love making

Surrender with your desires

Surrender with your pursuits

Surrender to life and let the flow of Divine Grace work magic…

…and may you make intimate, conscious love with life.

I’d love to hear your thoughts, StellaTriber.

How do you feel about, Sex V’s Intimate Conscious, Love Making?

With Love & Surrender, Elise / S*M




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